Dating for the mentaly ill
What makes Tony's character so interesting to watch is that he is aware of his tendency towards narcissistic sociopathy and struggles against it at times with varying rates of success.
Let’s be real–rejection sucks, especially if you actually expend brain energy thinking of yourself as a reject (i.e.
Remember that emotionally unavailable attracts emotionally unavailable. This is about the self-fulfilling prophecy of ‘inadvertently’ proving your unworthiness in the quest to validate yourself.
If you compare your version of taking a chance on love to betting on a horse, pursuing Mr Unavailables and assclowns and expecting better results each time, is like betting on a three legged horse and wondering why it keeps rocking up last…. Go back to the list at the start of this post which I took from part two and start asking yourself what you really want, because unless you are happy to do without the basics (which you have actually already attempted), this cannot work.
Understanding Abuse People have difficulty understanding the motives of people who are involved in abuse.
Why people choose to abuse other people is a common question.
In part two, I explained how rather than turning his behaviour inward and blaming yourself, you need to recognise that he is rejecting everything that being involved with you or any woman that expects, wants, or needs anything represents.
To recap from part two: “when a Mr Unavailable or assclown rejects you, it is actually more about rejecting: having to love having to communicate having to be emotionally available having to care having to empathise having to recognise someone’s needs other than their own having to be trusted having to be relied upon having to be respectful having to recognise your boundaries having to be committed having to be expected or needed having to deliver on the words that come out of their mouths having to make an effort and having to think.
If you want the feeling of rejection to subside and avoid being rejected by men who are unworthy of your time: 1) Take the focus off him and bring it back to you. The fact that he doesn’t recognise your value and has chosen to opt out (many of them were never in in the first place) is an ENORMOUS RED FLAG. If he didn’t recognise your value when you were with him, he’s certainly not going to recognise it now, and even if he did, what do you think you will gain from this?
That they hurt others in the process may go unregistered or only occur as a dim part of their awareness.
Abusive behavior can also result from mental health issues or disorders.
As they become adults, they simply turn this relationship dynamic around and start acting out the "abuser" side of the relationship dynamic they have learned.
By choosing to be the aggressor and abuser, they may get their first sense of taking control over their own destiny and not being at the mercy of others.
For example, someone with anger management issues, a diagnosis of intermittent explosive disorder, or a drinking or drug problem may easily get out of control during arguments (e.g., because there is something wrong with their ability to inhibit themselves at the brain level) and verbally or physically strike out at their partners and dependents.